

Esiwo Ashaka
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Name | Esiwo Ashaka |
Nickname | esiwo-ashaka |
Year of Birth | 1970 |
Gender | Male |
Location | Leeds, United Kingdom |
Relationship | Family |
Short Bio | I have 3 sons, the oldest is 18 and just started university and he has SCD. Twin boys aged 16 going on 45 My sons have been fairly healthy with no major crises for some years and admissions, except last year when the youngest suffered a chest infection and needed hospital care for a few days. Our eldest have been in reasonably good health, able to do what his mates do, though not as much. But they are fairly happy kids and feel no stigma about their health condition and why they can’t do as much as they would like. So emotionally and psychologically they are fairly grounded, except when he became 18 and he allowed me to be there when consulting with the adult ward doctors and nurses for the time and the doctor explained that one of the side effects of hydroxycaramide was low sperm count, he was completely rattled and wanted off hydroxycarbamide immediately. You see he just got hooked up with a carribean beauty and he was not ready to jeopardise his street creds. Anyway we calmed him down and made him understand the different options that can be used to correct this when he’s ready to have a child. I can’t imagine what his younger brother will do, we will probably put restraints on him before discussing that, otherwise he’ll turn the hospital to a wreck. Then there’s the first year of University, the parties, raves, my son attends all of them. We’ve sat down together as a family to agree on boundaries; he’s allowed a shot of spirits or a cocktail and nothing else. He has to have a full bottle of water with a slice of lime or lemon to ensure he stays hydrated and he drinks only from a water source that we know. And he calls immediately if he feels a tiny bit unwell. And finally, we also discussed with his circle of friends and ensure he sticks within the boundaries. We felt he’d be embarrassed inviting his friends over to emphasise the seriousness and likely consequences if they fail to watch out for him, but to our surprise he didn’t even consider saying no cause like he said he knows we are doing all we can to ensure his well-being. My wife and invisible me were shocked at his understanding and maturity. So that’s a short biography of me and my family. Some parts of it may read funny but it’s deliberate. The ability to laugh, to remain positive has seen us through a lot of hard times. You have a medical condition but never feel stigmatised or allow anyone to make you feel that. Be quick to friends, teachers, anyone that cares to know about your limitations and the reason for it. Remember there are others coping with worse and with proper care and self awareness you can live a normal life as a teen, young adult or adult, but within boundaries, never push yourself too hard or be competitive in nature, that won’t help you stay healthy. Finally for careers and family members, there are milestones that must be successfully attained by your loved ones, and each milestone comes with it’s own challenges so be prepared. Patience, empathy, understanding and of equal significance if not more, a sense of humour. It lightens the load you and your loved ones have to bear. So I pray for courage, good health and a cure for SCD which I know is coming sooner rather than later. Stay strong and be grateful always for without that you’ll succumb to despair. Love you all |
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