From Now On, Sickle Cell Isn’t Just About Me
I have often overlooked the song “From Now On” from the movie “The Greatest Showman,” because “This Is Me” has to be the best song on the soundtrack, right?
In the movie, protagonist P. T. Barnum, played by Hugh Jackman, feels as though everything is lost, until he’s reminded of what remains after the chaos: the people who love and support him. I always relate to moments like these because life with a chronic condition can feel like that.
While blindly enjoying the highs of life, I sometimes nearly forget I have sickle cell disease. Suddenly, a crisis will hit, things will begin to spiral out of control, and I won’t know how to piece it all back together.
In my fall from the highs, my loved ones are there to support me and carry me home. They not only support me during a crisis, but also provide aftercare. They help me feel like myself again, both physically and mentally. I am so grateful for my support network.
But having people who support me means I constantly battle with feeling like a burden. I’ll think they shouldn’t have to deal with my sickle cell problems. I often feel alone — an outcast in a society where most people don’t have to deal with the condition.
I was quickly reminded that sickle cell isn’t just my disorder — my support network has to bear it, too. I’m not the only one carrying this burden.
This reminder really hit home. I felt like Barnum, disregarding the feelings of those who have supported me. I was focused on my own feelings and didn’t stop to consider how those around me were affected.
I really struggle with this because sickle cell feels like such an individual experience. I tend to compartmentalize the pain and the emotions that go with it. After a crisis, I expect everything to go back to the way it was, and for everyone to simply adjust to that.
This isn’t realistic. My physical and mental wounds may fade, but a crisis also inflicts wounds on those around me. My beast doesn’t only attack me, but also everyone around me when I’m out of control and in pain. Others need time to heal, too, and I often forget this.
Watching me twist and turn in pain must be so difficult to witness and deal with. There’s also concern about what will happen the next time I lose control. It’s hard to remove the guilt about the strain this must have on those closest to me.
However, for better or worse, those around me are stuck with me. So, from now on, instead of feeling guilty or like a burden, I will remember to check in and ask how they are feeling and processing.
Because my support network is my home, it makes me feel like I belong and am not an outcast. As much as my network supports me and motivates me to push forward, I also want to check in and make sure I support them.
Do you have any tips for checking in on the people around you? Please share in the comments below.
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